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Secrets of Success

How to Have a Good Day (Almost) Every Day


A client and I were discussing success and how one has a “successful” day.

I asked him to think about how satisfied he was each day and had him rate his satisfaction on a scale of 1 to 10.

“When I think about all I have in my life, it should be at an 8 or 9,” he said “but it often feels more like a 5.”

 Then he asked “What about you?”

“How would you rate your days on a scale of 1 -10?”

Without hesitating I replied, “Almost every day is at least an 8 or 9.”

We discussed how that was possible.

This is what I told him.


Make a Conscious Decision to Have a Good Day

My good days are not an accident.

I expect my days to be 8s and 9s.

I make a conscious decision when I wake up and throughout the day to have a good day.

I focus on what is present and not what is missing.

In addition, I refuse to be a victim.

I rarely use the words “have to.”

I use the words “choose to.”


Control Your Stress and Pace

Everyone has a pace that is too fast when demands become too much.

I have a plan for each week, but I rarely experience a day that turns out exactly as planned.

So I consciously avoid things that create stress.

I work “smart.”

I don’t like to rush around at the last minute, and I don’t like being late so I plan ahead.

When I can, I avoid traffic.

When I don’t finish or complete something, I move on realizing tomorrow is another day.


Take Care of the “Machine”

It’s hard to feel good when you feel physically bad.

I stay healthy.

I exercise at least 300 hours a year, on average.

I eat well.

I get enough sleep.

All these things help.


Avoid Negative People

Negative, problem-oriented talkers are like vampires to me.

They suck the marrow from my bones.

I find them distracting and exhausting.

I avoid them when possible and, if that is not an option, I end encounters with them as fast as I can.


Cultivate Positive People

Positive, results oriented doers fill my tank.

They give me energy and stimulate my creativity.

I seek them out and spend time with them as often as I can.


Laugh Early and Often

I take what I believe in seriously, but I don’t take myself that seriously.

I laugh at myself often, and I love to make other people laugh.

One of my unstated goals each morning is, as quickly as possible to do or say something that will make my wife, Nancy laugh.

Who doesn’t love a good laugh?


Be Thankful and Grateful Each Day

If you wake up each day with your health and you have at least one person you love that also loves you, you’re in the “bonus round.”

I have an amazing wife I adore, a loving family, terrific friends, work that stimulates me, and wonderful clients.

Not a day goes by that I do not realize how truly blessed I am.

And I let people in my life know how I feel about them.

I say “thank you” and give appreciations- often.

(Did you know it’s neurologically impossible for the brain to access a negative thought in a state of thankfulness and gratitude? It’s like trying to sneeze with your eyes open. Can’t be done.)


One last secret–my decision to have great days is really a selfish one.

Since I am in essence “hanging around with me” all day, I’d rather be spending time with someone who is in a good mood than someone who is in a bad mood.

It’s that simple.

Abraham Lincoln purportedly observed, “People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

Make up your mind to have a good day.

It’s easier than you think.

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