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Five Decisions That Could Change Your Life

Are there areas in your life where you’re just not moving forward?

Perhaps you need to make some new decisions.

Here are five to consider.

 

Decision #1

Decide to Invest in the “Machine”

This decision is perhaps the most important decision because it addresses your health and without your health, all the other decisions might be hard to implement.

Think of your body as a” machine.”

A well-cared-for machine has more energy.

Having energy is particularly important as you add “more birthdays,” but is vital at any age.

A well-cared-for machine might last longer.

The longer you can stay active the more you can contribute in ways that matter to you.

So how do you take care of the machine?

It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3.

  1. Fuel the machine- eat real food, not that much.
  2. Exercise the machine-move every day, stay fit.
  3. Rest the machine-get 7-9 hours of sleep every night.

 

Decision #2

Decide to Connect More with Others

Human beings were not designed to go through life alone.

We are most alive when we connect.

When you can see others as they really are and when you feel truly known, the feeling of safety that comes from connecting is intoxicating.

To authentically connect with others, you have to get out of the inner world of your head and spend more time in the outer world of other people.

We make things up and isolate ourselves when we spend too much time in our heads.

To stay in the outer world, assume less and ask more questions.

Practice empathy and try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Spend more time with the people who really matter to you.

Don’t just think about it.

Do it.

 

Decision #3

Decide to Manage Time More Effectively

This is sort of a misnomer because you can’t actually “manage” time.

The seconds, minutes and hours hands on the clock continually move and are oblivious to any attempt we might make to speed them up or slow them down.

Though you can’t manage the clock, you can manage yourself.

You can learn to honestly manage your expectations and the expectations of others.

You can learn to say “yes” only when you mean “yes” and “no” when you mean “no.”

You can realize that in a day you can do a day’s worth, and no two days are the same.

One of the best ways to get started is to have a “why” for your “what.”

When approaching a task or making a decision about where you will be spending time, ask yourself “why am I doing this, and why am I doing it right now?”

Being brutally honest with your answer will go a long way towards helping you develop a clarity of vision and help you experience time as your servant not your master.

 

Decision #4

Decide to Let Go

What you attempt to possess will often possess you.

What you hold onto holds onto you.

It might be the need to be in control or the need to hold a grudge.

It might be the need to have more than others have or the need to appear like something you’re really not to the outside world.

Over time you may find that what you’re trying to control and possess is limiting your ability to find joy and move forward with your life.

So how do you “let go” you may ask?

Just let go?

Sometimes that’s the answer–just make the decision and do it.

In other situations, it’s more complicated.

You may need to have an honest conversation with yourself and find out what benefits you’re deriving by attempting to control things.

Maybe it’s the need for certainty; maybe it’s the need to be seen and heard; maybe you’re attempting to fill a void of some kind.

Only by addressing those underlying needs will you be able to begin letting go, and in doing so experience the aliveness that comes with living free of those burdens.

 

Decision #5

Decide to Believe You’re Enough

Few things are as debilitating to the human spirit as believing you’re “not enough.”

Feeling you’re not smart enough, not good enough, not generous enough, not available enough.

Even when you try to do your best to satisfy others, you may still feel like you’re coming up short.

Here’s the bottom line:  No matter what you do, your best will be good enough for someone and not good enough for someone else.

What would your life look like if you suddenly decided “being enough” was not your goal but rather your goal was to just be the best you could be?

A new thought pattern might look like this:

  • If it’s good enough for other people that’s great.
  • If it’s not good enough, then that would be their problem not yours.

You would then be able to focus on doing your best and not feel burdened by other people’s expectations.

Imagine what a relief that would be.

 

 

Life can be hard, but perhaps it doesn’t have to be as hard as we sometimes make it.

Try adopting one or more of these decisions.

You just might be surprised at how easy and powerful some of them can be!

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